I saw your post about mothers hiding downplaying or hiding their postpartum mental health and it brought up some thoughts for me.
I was one of those women.
Before our 6 week check-up, I’m not sure that I showered much or wore anything but sweatpants and nursing bras.
I hadn’t slept.
I spent most of my days frustrated and crying.
I had a list of texts messages that I never responded to.
I really struggled to do anything but take care of my baby and even that was hard.
I really wasn’t okay, but on the day of our check-up I showered, did my hair, put on “real” clothes, and even did a little make-up.
I wanted to appear good. I didn’t want people to think a certain way or worry.
When the doctor asked how I was doing, I smiled and said I was good.
She responded, “you look good,” and we moved onto the topic of birth control.
I think about it now and I wish she would’ve pushed a little harder.
I continued this facade over the next few well visits (where I was never asked about my mental health), and then things started to improve.
It was a hard 6 months. I didn’t enjoy the newborn stage like I wanted. I’m not sure if I would’ve opened up if someone had asked more questions, but I think it would’ve reduced some of the stigma and fear of judgement.
– Anonymous
Postpartum Support Yukon 